When a man is in hot pursuit of a woman, it usually lasts two or three weeks. During that time he puts on his best―dinner out, theater shows, flowers, and mushy text. Then things start to slow down. In that slow down stage, things either shift toward a relationship or the guy just loses interest. Listed below are a few examples of why men lose interest.
You don’t have a life
You never want to be the girl that drops everything on a whim if a guy calls and wants to do something. If he didn’t make a point to schedule your time in for a date, don’t rearrange your whole life just for him. If you sit around all day waiting for him to call, he will lose interest real fast because he will feel pressured that he’s your only source of entertainment. No one likes to be suffocated by needy people.
Losing your mysterious edge
The more active your life is, the more mystery you have to offer― and who doesn’t like a good mystery to solve? Not showing your full hand is a good thing. Make sure he doesn’t know what you’re doing, where you are, or who you’re hanging out with. During those early stages, it’s much more appealing when you can keep that mysterious edge about yourself.
Chasing after him
When a man has caught his prize, why would he need to keep pursuing you? In those early stages, don’t start initiating those important dates. Men need a challenge. If you start calling, texting and inviting him out with all your friends, why would he need to take you to the movies, or wine and dine you? He doesn’t. Those playful first steps will be lost. Don’t allow that to be taken away from either of you.
Not walking the line between interested and uninterested
It’s real simple… play a little hard to get. A chick that has options and a solid game plan for her life will be viewed as valuable and worth the price of admission. Don’t come off all Walmart super-saver-coupon by acting like a slobbering dog. It’s a major turn-off. Don’t be available every time he calls. Don’t change your regular girls night out. Make. Him. Miss. You.
Rewarding bad behavior
Let’s say he makes plans; then blows you off or he shows up ridiculously late like your time isn’t valuable. This is not the time to kiss his ass and ask; “Did I do something wrong?” And then bake him cookies. NO! NO! NO! If they do something rude, mean or disrespectful, you NEVER reward bad behavior, only the good.
Not giving them a time-out
It’s okay to give men a time-out. When you stand up for yourself, he won’t keep pushing the boundaries to see what he can get away with. Right from the get-go you stand your ground by establishing a self-respect standard. Do not put up with BS or bad behavior, EVER. If he’s got a problem with it, then he’s an immature boy, not a grown-ass man. Good riddance! The best way to handle childish behavior is to avoid him for a few days. Let him know you have one foot out the door (so to speak). He’ll receive the message to either grow up or you-know-what?… he’ll lose you.
Sleeping with him too early
We all know men have sex on the brain, but if you sleep with someone too soon, they’ll view you differently. If you’re too easy, a lot of men take that as a bad sign. They question; “If she’s this easy with me, how many other men has she been with?” I know it’s a double standard because we could think the same thing about him, but sadly, promiscuous men are not seen in the same light.
Not finding out what type of man he is
If you want more out of this relationship, you need to know if he’s a monogamous person. The best way to test for that― turn him down several times. If he gets upset and then the next night he’s got a new girl hanging on his arm, you know he only wants a female around― any female. It’s important to take your time with a new person before you give him something you can never get back.
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